I wonder if I am the only one? When I have a broken heart, I watch romance movies to give me hope that real love still exists. I guess that is kind of an oxymoron, considering I am watching a fictional story to support true love. But what about the movies that warn us about broken hearts? What about the character's that tell us which guys to steer clear of?
For Example:
- He Is Just Not That Into You
- Hitch
- Think Like A Man
- The Ugly Truth
"Guys invented the "spark" so that they could not call, and treat you kind of bad, and keep you guessing, and they convince you that that anxiety and that fear that they're throwing at you is actually, just a "spark". And you guys all buy it. You eat it up. And you love it. You love it because you feed off that drama. You all love that drama." Alex - He Is Just Not That Into You
Do we actually buy this shit? I mean, do we really fall for the cold shoulder? I know I sure do. I trust that guys are just human beings. I try to give guys the benefit of the doubt and all I end up doing is making excuses for them. "He is busy." "He doesn't have his phone with him." "Maybe he is asleep." "He just isn't ready yet." "He still has a lot to learn." At 21 years old, I am still fucking making excuses for why guys treat me like shit. I am giving them enough slack to strangle the belief in love right out of me. I am allowing them to treat me like shit when everyone knows the simple truth:
"...if a guy is treating you like he doesn't give a shit, he genuinely doesn't give a shit. No exceptions.." Alex - He Is Just Not That Into You
"Girls are taught a lot of stuff growing up: if a boy
punches you he likes you, never try to trim your own bangs, and someday you
will meet a wonderful guy and get your very own happy ending. every movie we
see, every story we're told implores us to wait for it: the third act twist,
the unexpected declaration of love, the exception to the rule. but sometimes
we're so focused on finding our happy ending we don't learn how to read the
signs. how to tell the ones who want us from the ones who don't, the ones who
will stay and the ones who will leave. and maybe a happy ending doesn't include
a guy, maybe it's you, on your own, picking up the pieces and starting over,
freeing yourself up for something better in the future. maybe the happy ending is
just moving on. or maybe the happy ending is this: knowing after all the
unreturned phone calls and broken-hearts, through the blunders and misread
signals, through all the pain and embarrassment... you never gave up hope.
" Gigi - He Is Just Not That
Into You
So what do we do? Do we hold onto hope? Do we continue on with the way we have been doing things all this time? What if we try to evolve? What if as women, we learn from our experiences and heartbreaks and transform ourselves into a more powerful and knowledgeable sex? Instead of hurting, we should teach each other the tricks we have learned. So guys treat us like crap. Let us learn why and fix it. Let us learn what makes them tick and why we are not able to understand them.
“You have to be two people. The saint and the sinner. The librarian and the stripper.” Mike Chadway – The Ugly Truth
Alex: Your
friend Terri's an idiot. And she's also the exception. By the way. The rare
exception.
Gigi: Okay.
Okay. But what if I'm the exception?
Alex: No,
you're not. You're not at all. In fact, you're the rule. And the rule is
this--if a guy doesn't call you, he doesn't want to call you.
Alex & Gigi - He Is Just Not
That Into You
And it generally works with any rule guys have. If a guy wants you he will make it
happen. If he isn't calling, it's because he doesn't want to. If he isn't
making the time for you he doesn't want you. Women are told their whole life
that we are the exception. That men are douches because they like us. It is
bullshit. If he wants you, he will make it happen. And I just have to stop
believing I am the exception. We are not the exception. The guy is a douche. Let him go and move on. Allow yourself the time to live. Be your own fucking person. Stop depending on them. Stop giving them the power over us. WE ARE NOT THE EXCEPTION.
"...we're not the exception; we're the rule."
Gigi - He Is
Just Not That Into You
Let's be honest though. I can put all of this here in front of you, and we still will not change. We will still believe we are someone's exception. We will still make excuses for guys who treat us like complete trash. But even while we are doing that, maybe we can take the time to change just a little bit. Maybe we can learn to not take the bullshit as much or maybe we learn to win him over in non-conventional ways. Maybe we become the woman he wants even though he doesn't know what he wants.
"I may dissect each little thing and put myself out there so
much but at least that means that I still care.
Oh! You've think you won because women are expendable to you.
You may not get hurt or make an ass of yourself that way
but you don't fall in love that way either. You have not won.
You're alone. I may do a lot of stupid shit but I'm still a lot closer to love than you are."
Gigi - He Is Just Not That Into You
Then of course, we could always go with this nugget of gold:
"So you wanna win a man over? You don't need 10 steps. You
need one and it's called a blowjob."
Mike Chadway – The Ugly Truth
I'm not saying it will work, but it might. HAHA
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