If you can't love me at my worst, you don't deserve me at my best...
Sure, this is a terrific policy and standard. But, I have struggled with valuing this policy. Previously, it was simply because I didn't value myself. However, as I get stronger, this belief of undying, unconditional love grows stronger as well.
Now maybe, too harshly implied and this policy could hurt us. Are we supposed to just toss away everyone who has ever said something wrong to us, looked at us wrong, didn't love us forever and unconditionally? I think not.
But I do think this policy allows us to avoid pain. If we put off that a person who cannot be strong for us when we are in need simply cannot handle us, then we do not feel rejected. And sure, there is certainly some validity to it. A person who cannot accept, love, and cherish you when you are at rock bottom should not be allowed to love you when you are Everest.
With that said - does that mean the guy who didn't notice you when you were in pain should suffer? How about the woman who forgot you have issues too? How about the one you love not knowing how you feel?
Simply put, when implemented wrong, this standard of love could stand to hurt us, but it is a policy that each of us needs to hold dear, because a person who cannot love you at your very worst certainly should never be allowed to or certainly does not deserve you at your very best.
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